In this fact sheet, we have used the phrase 'having sex'. The technical term is 'sexual penetration'. This does not just mean a penis being inserted into a vagina.
It also includes:
As long as a body part or object is inserted to some extent, it is considered to be penetration – it does not have to go in the whole way. It can be penetration even if no semen is produced.
Sexual penetration does not include a medical procedure that you have consented to.
If someone has sex with you and you do not consent, they can be charged with a crime, regardless of your age or the circumstances.
Consent is a word that is used regularly, but it is important to know what it means. If you consent to having sex with someone, this means that you have freely agreed to it.
You do not consent if:
If you are under the age of 12 and someone has sex with you, they may be charged with a crime.
The other person cannot claim in their defence that you 'consented'.
If you are aged 12 – 15, a person who has sex with you may be charged with a crime.
If they are charged, they can argue as a defence that you consented ONLY if:
If they are found guilty, they may face higher penalties if you are under their 'care, supervision or authority'.
If you are aged 16 or 17, and a person who has 'care, supervision or authority' for you has sex with you and you are not married to them, they may be charged with an offence.
If they are charged, they cannot argue in their defence that you consented, unless they can prove that at the time, they reasonably believed that:
You are considered to be under the 'care, supervision or authority' of the following people:
It is a crime to have sex with certain people that you are closely related to. This applies to your parents, grandparents, step-parents, the de facto partner of your parent, your brother or sister and your half-brother or half-sister. This also applies to adoptive relationships.
Both of you could be charged with a crime. But if your relative makes you have sex with them, you are not guilty of an offence, even though they might be.
Even though you are an adult, the rules regarding consent still apply. Therefore, if you do not freely agree to having sex, the other person could be charged with an offence. This is the case even if you are in a relationship with the person or you have agreed to sex in the past.
If you are aged 12 – 15, you can have sex with someone who is within two years of your age, as long as you are not closely related to them.
If you are aged 16 or 17, you can have sex with someone older than you, unless they have some position of authority or are closely related to you.
There are a lot of crimes which do not involve sexual penetration. We have focused on sexual penetration in this fact sheet, but there are other crimes involving young people, including:
This fact sheet sets out the law as at 17 Feb 2020.
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